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You give birth to a litter of kittens. Then you sleep with your high school boyfriend. Now you're trying to make a quick getaway – but you have too many bags to carry by yourself.
Some dream images typically appear at certain stages of pregnancy. For help figuring out what your dreams might be telling you, read on. The following excerpts, adapted from Women's Bodies, Women's Dreams by psychologist Patricia Garfield, describe some common second-trimester dreams and their possible interpretations.
Curiosity about the mother-baby connection
"While visiting my mother, I sit by myself in her living room. Near me on a chair is a pet of hers, a gibbonlike creature. I keep my distance from him, afraid he might bite. He climbs around on the furniture and nibbles on some squash in a hanging basket."
– Joan's dream during her fourth month of pregnancy
During the second trimester, a pregnant woman's dreams feature animals that are more baby-like, such as pups, chicks, and kittens. Depending on her attitude toward the pregnancy, her partner, and her situation, the animal may be either threatening or lovable. Joan's dream above suggests she felt some ambivalence about the effect of the strange new creature coming into her life. Would its presence be destructive?
The presence of friendly animals – rare and charming creatures in dreams – is generally thought to represent a good relationship between the dreamer and his or her instincts. In the dreams of many pregnant women, animals are frequently cuddly and cute. You may find that the animals in your dreams develop from sea creature to land mammal, representing the journey of primeval ancestors.
At other times, you may find you dream of your unborn child directly. Your feeling about the animal or baby reveals something about your attitude at the time of the dream.
Insecurity about your appearance
"For weeks I've been dreaming about my old boyfriend. Wild, sensuous dreams. I'm with him again, kissing and making love – it's as passionate as ever. When I'm awake, I have fantasies about wanting him to see me with a child. What's going on?"
– Veronica, during her sixth month of pregnancy
Erotic dreams are more likely as the mother-to-be gets larger – they tend to occur most often during the final three months. The reasons for erotic dreams in pregnant women are as varied as the women themselves.
Nevertheless, most mothers-to-be share a concern about their changing figure and the effect it will have on their sex life. Intercourse is necessarily more awkward during the final months of pregnancy. Deprived of the accustomed regularity or intensity of sex, an expectant mother sometimes compensates for it in dreams.
Beyond whatever physical deprivation they may feel, pregnant women often feel insecure about their continued attractiveness. Gripping furniture for support, the mother-to-be finds her body increasingly difficult to maneuver. Erotic dreams during pregnancy simply offer the comforting reassurance, "Don't worry. You see, you are sexy, alluring, and lovable."
Worry about your partner's love or commitment
"I am lugging around heavy baggage, several items, and so is John (my husband). I put one bag inside the other and offer this to John. He takes the doubled-up bag, thus lightening my load considerably."
– One of Joan's pregnancy dreams
Joan thought that taking over the extra bag might symbolize John's plan to take over the whole wage-earning "burden" for several months after the baby was born. Here the baggage, which often refers to weight gain in pregnant women's dreams, appears to refer more to financial burden. Joan's husband was to carry a "double load," and she felt grateful.
Sometimes, an expectant mother finds herself tortured by nightmares that her husband is having a love affair. Or she may picture strange women propositioning her man. Such dreams also express a sense of insecurity about holding the husband's love and attention through a time of great change.
A pregnant woman has a realistic sense of vulnerability. She is more dependent than ever upon the goodwill and support of those around her, especially her husband. She may fear his loss.
For most women, happily, the insecurity is unfounded and passes. Many women actually find that going through the experience of preparing for a baby's arrival and giving birth bonds her and her husband in a deep way. Pregnant women who understand a husband's tendency to feel neglected will find ways to include him in preparations for parenting.